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#010 Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart.

  • By Erin Cobb
  • 15 Dec, 2017

In Episode #010 Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart, We Explore Fear of failure, the Limbic System, Limiting Beliefs, and How the Only True Barriers in life are the ones we erect ourselves. Then we do a short, guided meditation to get out of our heads and into our hearts. It's time to accept our fears, learn what it means to live without fear and make the sound of who we really are!

"Never say Never - Limits Like Fears are often just an illusion"

-Michael Jordan

Show Notes:

Level 2 Maslow's Hierarchy: Safety and Security

Fear is the primary color of the amateur’s interior world.  Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of looking foolish, fear of under-achieving, and fear of over-achieving, fear of poverty, fear of loneliness, and fear of death. But mostly what we all fear as amateurs is being excluded from the tribe, i.e., the gang, the posse, the mother and father, family, nation, race, and religion. The amateur fears that if he turns pro and lives out his calling, he will have to live up to who he really is and what he is truly capable of. The amateur is terrified that if the tribe should discover who he really is, he will be kicked out into the cold and die.” - Steven Pressfield

The Limbic System - Our Primal Response to Negative Stimuli

  • Limbic System
  • Stimulus and Response -Ivan Pavlov
  • The Monkey Mind
  • Tribal lifestyle based fears (ie Social Conditioning)
The amateur dreads becoming who she really is because she fears that this new person will be judged by others as “different.”  The tribe will declare us “weird” or “queer” or “crazy.”  The tribe doesn’t give a shit Here’s the truth : the tribe doesn’t give a shit. There is no tribe.

That gang or posse that we imagine is sustaining us by the bonds we share is in fact a conglomeration of individuals who are just as fucked up as we are and just as terrifeid.  Each individual is so caught up in his own bullshit that he doesn’t have two seconds to worry about yours or mine, or to reject or diminish us because of it.

When we truly understand that the tribe doesn’t give a damn, we’re free.  There is no tribe, and there never was.

Our lives are entirely up to us.” -Steven Pressfield

Limiting Beliefs

  • Elephant on the rope
  • You Are Not The Story You Keep Telling Yourself
  • We can shed our stories like a snake can shed its' skin. We are not our stories.
  • What we focus on we get more of
  • The Only Barriers in Life are the ones we erect ourselves.

We Overestimate the Liklihood of Failure (Fear of Loss)

  • Top-Line Philosophy
  • Self-Fulfilling
  • What We Focus on we get more of
  • Stanford Study
  • "The Best advice I can give to anyone in their twenties: When faced with a choice between two options..(sic) compare the upsides and the downsides, then completely ignore the downsides and choose the option with the higher upside potential. Every time."

Rookie Mistake: Staying in your head and ignoring the mind-body connection.

  • Let's heal that fear today -Get out of your head and into your heart. (Tony Robbins Clip)

Sources:

  1. Tony Robbins
  2. Ivan Pavlov
  3. According to Eysenck's (1967) theory of personality, neuroticism is interlinked with low tolerance for stress or aversive stimuli.[45]
  4. Wikipedia
  5. Jordan Leigh
  6. The Way of The Superior Man - David Deida
  7. Steven Pressfield
Remember: I don't have all the answers, I'm not a guru. Just a companion on the path.


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