In Episode #015 How to Become a Confident Lobster (without being an Arrogant A$$hole), we explore pulling the sword from the stone, the connection between inner and outer confidence, and the power of total abundance.
First you must unlock the mystery of self confidence. This is like pulling the sword out of the stone. Only the one true king can do it, but you just didn't know that was you the whole time because you were afraid to try.
Embrace your truth-
It's easy to be confident when your words, thoughts and actions are in total alignment.
Confidence is a feeling. It’s a state of mind. It’s the perception that you
lack nothing.
That you are equipped with
everything you need, both now and for the future. A person confident in their social life will feel as though they lack nothing in their social life. A person with no confidence in their social life believes that they lack the prerequisite coolness to be invited to everyone’s pizza party. It’s this perception of
lacking something that drives their needy, clingy and/or bitchy behavior.
Just because somebody
has something (tons of friends, a million dollars, a bitchin’ beach body) doesn’t necessarily mean that this person is confident in it.
There are tycoons who totally lack confidence in their
own wealth, models who lack confidence in their looks, and celebrities who lack confidence in their own popularity. So I think the first thing we can establish is that confidence is not necessarily linked to any external marker. Rather, our confidence is rooted in
our perception of ourselves regardless of any tangible external reality.
Because our confidence is not necessarily linked to any external tangible measurement, we can conclude that improving the external, tangible aspects of our lives won’t necessarily build confidence.Chances are that if you’ve lived more than a couple decades, you’ve experienced this in some form or another. Getting a promotion at your job doesn’t necessarily make you more confident in your professional abilities. In fact, it can often make you feel
less confident. Dating and/or sleeping with more people doesn’t necessarily make you feel more confident about how attractive you are. Moving in together or
getting married doesn’t necessarily make you feel any more
confident in your relationship. So I will say it again,
Confidence is a feeling. It’s a state of mind. It’s the perception that you
lack nothing.
Mark Manson- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Jordan Peterson - 12 Rules For Life
Pulling The Sword From The Stone
- Prolapsed Pineal
David Deida- The Way of the Superior Man
Charlie Munger (Berkshire Hathaway)-Poor Charlie's Almanack
Remember: I don't have all the answers, I'm not a guru. Just a companion on the path.
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